Changing Your Attitude About Change
Words of Wisdom
Here are some of my favorite:
- "It's okay to have doubts, just don't feed and entertain them." --Bernie Siegel
- "You cannot solve a problem with the same mind that created it." --Albert Einstein
- "What lies behind us and what lies ahead of us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us." --Henry David Thoreau
- "Hidden in any misfortune is good fortune." --Tao Te Ching
- "Your goal is not to rid yourself of fear, but to recognize its presence and to view it as a less powerful force than the wisdom and faith that reside inside of you. We fear because we have forgotten how strong we are." --Ariane de Bonvoisin
Some Notable Topics
- There's a list of 'change demons' -- those feelings that make change more difficult, like fear and doubt -- and antidotes for them. For example, in dealing with fear, the readers is encouraged to be aware of fears, but also to be realistic; to feel the fear and do what needs to be done anyway; envision yourself years in the future and dwell on the positive future you will create from this experience. Similar suggestions are offered for dealing with doubt, shame, blame, guilt and impatience. The book also includes specific actions to take in order to deal with these stumbling blocks. While a few of the suggestions could be meatier (whole books have been filled on how to forgive or let go of shame, for example), Bonvoisin does an excellent job of providing you with a better understanding of how to navigate difficult change, what to work on, and how to start.
- The book includes a whole section on how to take a spiritual approach to accepting change and turning it to your advantage. Such sections are often neglected in books like this, and are indeed challenging to create. While readers may come from extremely diverse backgrounds and perspectives, the section manages to maintain a universal user-friendliness, and offers excellent perspectives that should be helpful to virtually all readers who are interested. The main idea -- to remember that you are connected to something larger than yourself, that the changes you face are part of an overall scheme that can always be used to your benefit -- is strong and comforting, regardless of whatever changes and challenges you face.
- Have you heard the popular Serenity Prayer, 'God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference'? A large portion of the book is devoted to building and deepening the truth of these words, which can be useful for those facing significant stress from change.