From the article: What Are The Main Causes of Stress?
Stress can be in the eye of the beholder, so to speak. Some things may stress one person and not another, other experiences may be almost universally stressful, but can affect people to varying degrees. One thing is certain, though: we all experience stress! What are the main causes of stress for you? Share your answers, and see what others have to say about their main causes of stress. Share Your Stressors!
My Stress With Family
- My stress with me is my family,they are so different from me. We don't get along. I have a daughter who is the world to me and I take good care of her...She is the only baby in the whole family out of 5 siblings...And none of them spends time with her but now their wives spend time with their other nephews and nieces from the other side and this really brothers me about how they treat my daughter. They even treat me differently, always have. Why this all does brother me, I dont know but it does...
- —Guest Michelle
It's Time for Me
- My parents divorced when I was young. Both seemed that part of their divorce was divorcing me, so I ended up living with different friends and relatives. When they began to age they started contacting me to help them. While they were living their lives, I lost my husband at an early age to drinking and raised two children alone. I was constantly in fear of whether I would be able to pay bills, afford groceries, keep a roof over our heads, etc. At this time in my life, I thought I would be able to accomplish some things I wanted (finish school, learn new things, define fun) I find that the past stress has left me with a few ailments that I have to work on. While I am trying to work on what I want, I have one adult child that lives with me (rent free) because she can't afford to live on her own. The other adult child feels he didn't get a fair deal during childhood with me, so unless I call him......silence. Right now, I'm planning to change my name, pack up and move.
- —DeeVorah05
My Jobs
- I'm a single parent with no help from my child's father. I work 2 jobs and just feel it's not enough. I wish I could be carefree and not worry about it, but I know I have someone who depends on me.
- —Guest Amanda
stress
- I'm coping with schizophrenic adult son living at home.
- —Guest just me
Stressors
- Some of the stressors of my life are my family, no one can seem to find the missing shoe but me. School right now is hard after being out for 24 years and then going back. College is nothing like high school. Then there is the fact that I am unemployed and unemployment won't last forever. Finding a job to go around school is not easy and bills are piling up. So to say the least, I have stress. I got my car repossessed and only have a truck with 4 people so finding another vehicle is hard when it comes to finally getting another job. My health has been bad so I am working with three different doctors and a nutritionist and a therapist for my knees. I just want to have one day where there is nothing to worry about.
- —Guest Arlene Foss
Too Many Chiefs, Not Enough Braves
- My mother has advanced Alzheimer Disease. My mother in law has advanced lung cancer. My dog has an autoimmune disease. We have 8 siblings between the two of us, but everyone else is too busy to help with the mothers. I take care of one in the am, then travel 30 miles to take care of the other one. Then I go home to fry chicken, put up a bushel of apples, 3 bushels of butterbeans, and 12 quarts of tomatoes. In my spare time I take care of my dog (who is my only friend). On his way to the lake house my older brother tried to run over my dog with his truck, because he is not happy with the way I take care of our mother. My sisters give me orders for mother's care on their way to the beach or birthday parties. My husband's brothers have drunken rages over their dying mother. I lost my job, my husband's hours have been cut in half, and I worry about losing my mind or having a heart attack all the time. Sorry for the pity party, but doesn't it make y'all feel a little better?
- —ppamhammonds
Tooooo Much to Deal With
- I have a beautiful son. My hubby is working all day and not bothered about my feeling, always putting his family and work before us. I have been struggling with work, housework, cooking and cleaning, and also bringing up my son. It's really difficult and he thinks he has got it hard. What about me? He doesn't care about my feelings or how much I am doing. I use very bad language with him because I feel so bitter towards him for not supporting me or showing his affections towards me and now I feel my marriage to him is over. I am having sleeping problems now.
- —Guest ajnabi
Too Much Going On, Not Enough Money
- I live in a very pricey area of the country, and am trying to cover the bills with admin work while I work at a musical career on the side. I lost my receptionist job at an investment firm due to this economy in November, and am lucky now to have an ongoing temp job, that may go perm, but even waiting for it to go perm, while scraping by financially is stressful. I'm a very intelligent, hardworking woman with a master's degree (and the debt to prove it!), and it's frustrating to have so much going for me and not make ends meet. Plus, with music, I overbooked myself so much, that I've driven myself half nuts and am not sure what I want anymore. That said, it's been nice and comforting to see people on here from all walks of life dealing with similar stressors. At least we're not alone.
- —Guest alix
Psychologist
- Inlaws. They can't let go of my husband. We are both working and we have no income and we are in our mid forties. There's lots of interference. My husband also suffers from severe jealousy and does not want me to socialise or even netweork with friends. I get lonely. My comfort is really limited. I can't buy a car, everthing is an issue. I know I am a psychologist and have managed to cope bt first I am a human being.
- —Guest editter Mugo
Stressors Sources
- For long-run, coming from my childhood experience but not yet treated by professional therapy;for short-term, coming from objective inability towards any change in situation, but not yet learned up for skillful wisdom.
- —Guest Debby LAU
Changes & the Unknown
- I'm going to need to find a new job because my current salary is barely covering my costs. I'm also going to be moving but not sure where to. I feel uncertain about my future.
- —Guest BuddhaThis
To Many To Dos
- I have read many things about being organized, making short To Do lists, etc. I have tried paper, electronic, cool planner books and sometimes no "list" at all. My favorite technique was to make a list with just THREE things on it. Sounded good. But... I find that each one thing subdivides on its own to about 20 different mini To Do things and then... I am back where I started from. I do try to do yoga and meditation daily though - that definitely helps with focus and concentration.
- —abVetMed
Money and Choices!
- My husband and I have two jobs each and it still isn't enough. We started out life together with not a lot, but we haven't been able to get anywhere. Between paying for infertility treatment out of pocket, almost 10k in vet bills due to two major surgeries, and then all of our other expenses - it's a little overwhelming. But how could I have said to my Boxer - sorry, buddy, I wanted to get the house painted so we can't get you surgery? It's the same with family building. My state does not mandate infertility coverage, but how can you choose not to have children because of money?
- —Guest Karen
Work, Work, Work!
- Every relationship causes a certain amount of stress, but work certainly causes the most. Worries about losing a job, keeping a job, making everyone happy at work -- sometimes it's too much.
- —Guest Violet
It's the Economy...
- I am so stressed out about the economy right now...It makes me crazy that bankers and brokers in NY are walking away with big fat bonuses, while my retirement account has dropped by about half in the last year. They're lolling around at their mansions in the Hamptons, millionaires many times over thanks to their greed and ineptitude, and I'm working harder than ever just to try to not end up as a bag lady when I retire. Makes me feel totally stressed out, because I have to work harder and more than ever before, to make less, and just to try to catch up to where I was before the economy went bust, much less recoup all the money lost.
- —Guest Mary
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