Don't Go To Bed Mad
- Smiley369 hit the nail on the head! That's the number one correct answer.
Pick at Each Other
- My husband and I play around, pick at each other about silly things, dance like dorks...having easy, everyday fun makes life good.
Love is in the Details
- Don't forget the little things. Simple caring gestures, sincere thanks for things that are done, and always treat your loved one like you'd like to be treated -- or like you'd treat a stranger. It amazes me how often we treat our loved ones with less care and compassion than we'd spend on someone we just met.
- —Guest Suzi
Give 90 Percent and Expect 10 in Return
- Don't hesitate to vacuum the floor even though you've just returned from a very hard day at work. Always ask your spouse if they need help and be attentive to their needs, chances are you'll get the same courtesy in return. The more you give to your relationship the more you will get out of it.
Together / Apart
- Spend time together but don't be afraid to spend time apart. Part of that is trust. Part is not having to be always in control. My husband and I have shared interests but we also have separate interests that we pursue on our own - but sometimes sharing/discussing with each other too. It gives us much more to talk about than if we did absolutely everything together all the time.
- —Guest Jillian
Turn Off the TV and Talk!
- With two young children (one of whom has special needs) and three jobs between the two of us, it's easy to just not have time to communicate. While we enjoy watching our favorite tv shows together, we communicate much better and feel a lot closer when we turn off the tv and the computer and actually talk to each other. Even the stressful conversations about things like money go better when we are open and honest and try to discuss things when there are fewer distractions. It's too easy to simply exist in the same house without actually connecting. When we tune into each other instead of everything else, it brings us much closer and helps us realize we are more in love now than the day we got married. And that's saying something!
- —Guest Kristi
Keep it New
- I read a study about marital satisfaction. It compared 3 groups: for one group, it was "business as usual". The second group was "do something you like doing together" (go to a movie, go out to dinner etc). The third group was the "do something new" group -- take tango lessons, take an online course together -- do something you wouldn't normally do that's a bit of a challenge. At the end of the study, the group that had to push themselves showed the most significant increase in marital satisfaction. They'd taken on a challenge together and even if they hadn't particularly liked the challenge, just doing something new together brought them closer.
- —Guest Susan
Just Do It
- I truly believe sex is the glue that holds relationships together. Sex is just the thing for reminding you why you're there, a great stress-reliever (good for any marriage), and releases all the happy-brain chemicals that make you feel loving toward one another. When you have a good sex life, it makes all those little annoyances much less important.
- —Guest Natalie
Ballroom Dancing Lessons
- The first night of lessons, the instructors told us that 3 out of every 4 couples who dance together, have sex that night. My husband was happy to return each week!
- —Guest scudd
- We also enjoy a date night. We take turns deciding on what we'll do and where we'll go. We also take turns on vacation choices. We have accumulated enough "stuff" during our years together, so instead of gifts we go on weekend trips. We love to travel, so for our birthdays, our anniversary and yes, the day we finish our taxes each year, we pick a place that we've never been and spend the weekend. It could be local or a short flight away. Did you already guess? We take turns deciding where we'll go.
- —Guest Judy
Love As a Verb
- One key to a happy marriage is to treat our spouse with love. Just feeling love isn't enough. If we don't treat our spouse in a loving way, it doesn't matter if we feel love. And what does that mean to treat our spouse in a loving way? It doesn't mean we dote on them every moment, or that we do whatever they want. It means that we let them speak and really listen, assume the best, do things for them simply because we know they like it, forgive, be honest, and all the other things that we can do that make the other person feel loved. And part of that is having our own act together. That's a big sign that we love the other person, is by treating ourselves with love as well.
- —Guest TammyT
- Leave your ego outside the wedding band, and invest no emotional energy in being right all the time.
- —Guest Gary Presley
Always say Yes
- Unless you have strong reason/s to say No. Place yourself first in the position of your spouse and see the consequence of a No response.
My Best 1/2
- I like the answers here & I totally agree with them. Another thing is to find a common interest, like music. And most important, be honest, give space (trust), and be friends, too. Almost 33 years married to my best friend!
My Husband is My Best Friend.
- I am a very quiet, shy person and I don't go out to lots of big parties, etc. I am satisfied to just stay at home with my family and dogs. This is fine for me because my husband is also my best friend and I can talk to him about anything. He is trustworthy and honest. I suffer from social anxiety disorder so staying at home with my husband and family is where I feel most comfortable and relaxed. Also, I love animals and my dogs are a comfort for me. Your husband should also be your best friend and you should be able to trust him with anything.
- —Guest bonnie
Don't Go To Bed Mad
- My mother always told me that the key to her happy marriage to my dad was that they never went to bed angry--they always talked things out first. I think that this is sound advice--if you let resentments build without taking them out, it can poison the relationship. Also, I don't sleep well when I'm angry.
- —Guest Smiley369
Two Words: Date Night!
- Having a regular date night is key for us. Early on, every night was date night, but then things got busy with our lives and--surprise, surprise!--we started to drift. Having regular dates helps keep things fun.
- —Guest CreativeCat