How do you learn from mistakes? Life's difficulties are worth the pain if they teach us important lessons in living. Choosing the wrong partner can teach you a lot about your own needs, about setting boundaries, and about listening to yourself, for example. Offending someone can teach you about their boundaries, about tact, and about other dynamics necessary to get along with others. However, why make the same mistake twice? Or once, for that matter? Share what you've been able to learn from mistakes, and benefit from the mistakes (and lessons) from other readers as well. Share Your Experiences!
Forgiving but not Forgetting
- Finally, at the age of 46, I have learned that I
need to forget the people in my life who have caused me great harm. Whether it was physical, mental, sexual or verbal, I am the one who is carrying around the very, very heavy weight on my shoulders. When I was much younger, I had decided that I was NEVER going to forgive some of the people in my life that have hurt me in one way or another. It took a long time for me to realize that I was the one who kept the pain going and reliving it and thinking about it. The wrongdoer has gone on in their life and has never contacted me since. I did nothing wrong, but I had been the one to keep the pain alive and going....in my head. The lesson learned, was that I have the power to put things out of my head and life. I can decide to stop it all, and therefore, I have put these experiences out of my mind, but I will never forget them. Part two of the lesson, never bring them up again, as there is no benefit to it. Dallasemmitt
- We all commit mistakes but are still able to cope up from it. It is a choice and a strong determination to stand and learn from such mistakes. Choosing a life that is less stressful.
- Learning from your mistakes and acceptance is a healthy practice in life. Do not let stress win over you.
- We should always learn from our mistakes and try not to do it again. This should be the notion in our mind set or else it would always leave you in a never ending stressful situation in life.
- In life, there are things that we can never change anymore and acceptance is necessary. If it is your mistake, try to forgive yourself. This will help you being released from the stress of what you did.
- I am always nice to people, but i always get hurt when pleasing them. I have learned that my 'no' is 'no' and my 'yes' wil be my 'yes'.
- —Guest alvina
Learning From Mistakes
- This was a powerful article.
I definitely go through this in many areas in my life - for example, trying to obtain a healthy weight. I'll make poor food choices and then beat myself up over it.
Denial is HUGE for me. I now weigh myself regularly so I don't slip and gain 5 pounds. When I gain 2 pounds I address it. Before I didn't at all until I'd gain 20 pounds.
It's hard. I'll acknowledge it - feel shame - then a little self pity - then forgive - then back on track. I'm working on dropping the shame and self pity phases. It's not necessary. I do pat myself on the back for acknowledging my mistakes. Fear kept me from that for years. Instead I chose denial.
- —Guest drina
Keeping My Mouth Shut
- I've always liked people who speak their minds, and I've prided myself with being completely open and willing to say whatever I'm thinking. Lately, though, I've gotten myself in trouble--people have said I'm arrogant and oblivious. While I don't necessarily agree, I see where they can get that. I'm learning to curb what I tell others because it's getting me into trouble.
- —Guest Marc
The Wrong Stuff
- I tend to pick the wrong men again and again. I like the 'bad boys', the ones who are passionate and fun, and don't treat me well after a while. After years of blaming the men for not treating me with respect, I'm finally realizing that these men all have something in common--me!--and maybe I'M not treating me with respect by choosing them! I've learned that maybe I should look deeper when picking a guy, and when they show me who they are, as Maya Angelou says, believe them the first time!
- —Guest Cammy