My 'Preferred Method' Of Self Sabotage Is...
taking on too much. I end up taking on so many projects that I'm stressed-out and miserable. Yet I have a difficult time scaling back and saying no--all of these things (individually) make me happy, but together it's way too much! I end up overscheduling to the point that I don't have time for the really important things, like sleep and exercise.
I Knew It Was Self Sabotage When...
I saw myself being really impatient with my husband an kids, and feeling overwhelmed and resentful for all that I had to do. When I saw that they were unhappy, I realized that I was, too, and that the things I was doing weren't worth this type of stress!
Tips and Tricks
- I tried just saying no to new commitments, and that helped somewhat, but another important thing for me to do has been to run things by my husband before I commit.
- If I can say, 'I need to talk to my husband before I take anything else on', it gives me time to really think about whether or not I should be doing this.
- Also, if I have to 'convince' him that it won't be too much, it's easier to see when it will be. Sometimes he 'forces' me to cut down on other things. Sadly, I need that, and I'm glad I have him there to do it.
