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The Secret - Book Review of The Secret From a Stress Management Perspective

What's The Secret of The Secret?

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Updated May 27, 2014

The Secret - Book Review of The Secret From a Stress Management Perspective
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Have you been wondering about what 'The Secret' is, and why it took the country by storm? You're not alone. The book, which discusses the Law of Attraction and how to use it in your life, rose to the top of many bestseller lists and inspired offshoots like The Secret Gratitude Book, The Secret Day-To-Day Calendar, and its own official website. The book introduced many people to the concept that their thoughts may influence not only their actions, but the experiences that they bring into their lives as well.

Tips from The Secret

The Secret puts forward several ideas that are surprising, exciting, and perhaps controversial, such as:
  • If you focus your attention on achieving a goal and believe not only that you can do it, but that you already have done it, you can achieve virtually any goal you set your mind to.
  • If you focus on what you don't want, you are inadvertently drawing that into your life. For example, if you constantly ruminate on what is stressing you, you'll actually draw more of those situations (and accompanying stressed feelings) into your life. Instead, the trick is to focus on what you do want in your life, and you'll get more of that.
  • The Law of Attraction, the principle that you attract whatever you focus your energy on (good or bad), works with relationships, possessions, goals, and anything else you are able to focus on -- even your own health.
The book shares other insights and specific strategies to use, gives a history of the use of the Law of Attraction, and provides examples on how it's worked in the lives of various people, making it an interesting and informative read.

The Cons and Contrversies of The Secret

The book has caused some controversy. For example, some people believe that it conflicts with the religious values of Christianity and other major religions, while others see it as a complementary approach. The book does spend considerable time on how to use the Law of Attraction to gain an expensive car of other material possessions, and without direct action; many people have asserted that having such a focus on external things and material wealth goes against the spiritual wisdom of the Law of Attraction, reducing it to a parlor trick of sorts. And there's also been criticism of the idea that we create our own difficult circumstances in life; the obvious examples of children born into abuse or millions of people born into extreme poverty doesn't seem to fit well with that explanation of reality. The Law of Attraction itself can be controversial, as it's not a scientifically proven 'law', but more of an anecdotally observed phenomenon.

Main Caveat With The Law of Attraction

My main concern with the Law of Attraction, especially as presented in 'The Secret', is that some people may take the 'you create your own reality' message as proof that they are to blame for challenging circumstances which are beyond their control. Accidents, serious illnesses, and other major life circumstances can be easier to weather with a feeling of personal control and a proactive attitude like that espoused in the secret; these same challenges can be all the more crushing when people blame themselves for their existence. The Law of Attraction, in my opinion, can explain a lot and can be used for its positive benefits, but does not account for all negative events we encounter. Challenges are a part of life, and facing them makes us stronger; blaming ourselves and beating ourselves up over the challenges we face is absolutely not helpful.

Bottom Line on The Secret

Countless thousands of people have found the principles espoused in The Secret to be life-changing. Many people have found it to provide significant relief from stress in that it can provide the reader with more of an internal locus of control, positive attitude, and clarification of goals. Though there are some hiccups to it, I would say that this book can provide some excellent opportunities for stress relief, and a rough roadmap to a better life.
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The Secret, Member good2bpure

I am reading ""The Secret"" and find it fascinating and in accordance with many teachings I learned 30 years ago. In fact, these teachings are not new. The Church of Relligious, specifically its founder Ernest Holmes taugh and still teaches these very principles and how to apply them to cause desired change to ones life. The difference that I see is that the author takes a more scientific approach in that she has added the newis scientific findings as to how thought affects energy. Thus, she backs up the validity and truth of her claims. It's a wonderful book but not at all new. I believe Mary Baker Eddy also taught these principles. The author has simply fine tuned and better explained an age old known subject, and she did a marvelous job. Love the book.

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