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Elizabeth Scott, M.S.

Be Your Own Valentine!

By February 14, 2014

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I'm almost surprised to say that I've been lucky enough to be in love for every Valentine's Day of my adult life, and V-Day has been one of my favorite holidays for the same amount of time. However, I admit that when I was younger and single, I wasn't sure how to celebrate the holiday. Without a specific "Valentine" (other than my mom), I felt that I was a little too old for those chalky candy hearts with vague messages on them, and a little too single for the roses, jewelry, and dinners for two that were being marketed to couples around me.

If I could, I'd love to tell single me what I know now about how to enjoy Valentine's Day as a single person--it would have relieved some stress. I can't tell her (me), but I can tell you--and I believe that this information could help your stress levels as well, even if you are not at all stressed about celebrating Valentine's Day single. Even if you are not even single!

What I'd like to share is the concept of being your own Valentine. This holiday is all about showing love to your "special someone," but who should be more special to you than you? To make the most of this holiday, I recommend treating yourself right by practicing excellent self-care, getting more pleasures in life, and doing the things you enjoy for the day. Why not get yourself some chocolates if you want them? Buy yourself fresh flowers and make your home a little more peaceful. If you'd like to get dressed up, why not dress up for yourself? You deserve it, and focusing on these things can bring you plenty of precious stress relief. You may just get inspired to do these nice things for yourself year-round, as you should!

In addition to taking special care of yourself for Valentine's Day, I would like to suggest that we all show our friends and loved ones some extra care. You may already be doing this, but if not, I encourage you to reach out to those you care about and let them know what you appreciate about them. Let them know you love them, and let them know what it is about them for which you are grateful. And if you are single and wishing you had a partner on Valentine's Day, spending time with a friend or group of friends is the way to go! Relationships, not just the romantic ones, but all of our healthy relationships, are what bring richness to our lives. Our relationships can be among our greatest assets for stress relief.

Whatever your plans, I'd like to wish you a Happy Valentine's Day! I hope you have a day filled with love from many sources, and a week that keeps the good feelings going. The following resources can help you have a Valentine's Week to love.

Self-Care And Relationship Resources:

  • Self Care Strategies You Shouldn't Miss
    Taking good care of yourself is an important part of stress management! Give yourself the care you deserve and consult this list for ideas.

  • Pleasures In Life
    Enjoying life's pleasures is a great way to increase happiness and reduce stress. Learn more about the research behing getting pleasure in life.

  • Laugh And Have more Fun
    Laughter's not just the best medicine, it's the best stress reliever as well--or at least one of the best. Here's how to enjoy yourself more this Valentine's Day, or any day.

  • Overcoming Loneliness
    If you're feeling lonely this Valentine's Day, you're not alone. The holiday that's designed for couples can sometimes make singles feel left out. Here's more to know about loneliness, and how to get past the feeling.

  • Benefits of Social Support
    Here's why relationships are good for you, along with tips on how to cultivate more relationships in your life.

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