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Elizabeth Scott, M.S.

Who's Lucky In Love?

By March 17, 2013

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When people are out in the sometimes cold and unfriendly world of dating, it may be tempting to become jaded and "not get your hopes up" by expecting the best. But does maintaining a bit of pessimism keep you safe from heartbreak? Research may have an answer: probably not. Optimists, with their high hopes and open hearts, actually do seem to be luckier in love, therefore suffering less of that feared heartbreak that pessimists (and everyone else) are always trying to avoid. Researchers from Michigan State University studied dispositional optimists--those who tend to have an optimistic personality and world view--and found three things in particular:
  1. Optimism is linked to satisfying and happy romantic relationships
  2. Optimists tended to have greater increases in relationship satisfaction over a two-year interval
  3. This increased satisfaction may be linked with optimists' tendency toward cooperative problem solving in relationships--they are more likely to talk things out, believe in seeing the other person's perspective, and look for solutions that work for both parties, rather than trying to 'win' arguments at their partner's expense.
This goes along with other research that has shown other benefits of optimism, and likely plays into optimists' tendency to be optimistic: they expect good things in their relationships because they make good things happen in their relationships. And because strong, healthy relationships can be a huge source of support and can help us relieve stress in many ways, this research shows that the optimists' way is a good way to build a healthy love life that's likely to include less stress. What's helped you find success in your romantic relationships? Share in the comments section below, and feel free to pass this to friends who may benefit, via the 'share' button. The resources below can help you to develop more optimism in your life, and to create healthier relationships, too!

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Source: Assad, Kimberly K., Donnellan, M. Brent, Conger, Rand D. Optimism: An enduring resource for romantic relationships. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, Vol 93(2), Aug, 2007. pp. 285-297. ........................................................................... Join The Conversation or Get More Information: Facebook - Twitter - Newsletter - Bio - More Options

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Comments
May 1, 2011 at 7:14 pm
(1) Carele Belanger says:

Thank you for this article. We all make our luck and we all can attract the love we want and deserve. Like you say, be positive in one main thing to do.

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