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Get-In-Shape Help For The Stressed

Monday May 20, 2013
Now that warm weather is upon us and summer is rapidly approaching, many, many of us are resolving to get more fit--to have more energy for summer fun, to feel more comfortable in summer clothes, or just to fulfill those forgotten New Year's goals of staying healthier. As you may or may not know, stress does play a role in such things--it can change your cravings as well as your habits--but fear not! If you have any interest in weight loss or fitness (or know someone who does), here are some tips for meeting your diet and exercise goals, even when stressed.

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Take The Stress and Weight Gain Test
Stress can contribute to weight gain in several ways. If you're having trouble with your weight and wonder what role stress may be playing, or if you just want information and resources for healthy change, this is the quiz for you! The following 10 questions are each designed to help you assess a different aspect of your lifestyle to determine if you may benefit from some simple changes that can help you keep your weight under control when you're stressed. At the end of the quiz, you'll find resources that pertain to your specific situation.

What Causes Emotional Eating?
Even if we know what we're supposed to be eating, there are additional factors that influence how much and what type of food we consume. One of these factors is stress, which is linked to increased emotional eating. Emotional eating has many causes. Learn about the main reasons--besides hunger--that stressed people eat, and find resources to stop emotional eating.

How To Stop Emotional Eating
As anyone who's watching their weight will tell you, hunger is just one of many reasons that people eat. If you're an emotional eater, you may find yourself eating to deal with uncomfortable emotions, using food as a reward when you're happy, and craving sweets or unhealthy snacks when stressed. This article can help you to cut down emotional eating and develop healthier eating habits--even when stressed!

Diet Tips For The Stressed
Despite best intentions, many people find themselves falling short of their diet ideals due to various 'diet traps', or factors that may sneak in and sabotage a healthy diet. The following diet tips can help you to combat some of the main diet traps people encounter, and maintain a healthy diet that keeps you feeling great.

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Source: Bray, George. Pounds Lost. New England Journal of Medicine February 26, 2009.
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Summer Stress Relief

Monday May 20, 2013
Summertime...and the living is easy, right? Well, not always. While we tend to expect a more relaxed lifestyle during summer, and the season definitely has its perks, summer can bring its share of unexpected stress. This blog explores areas of hidden stress that affect many of us during the summer season, brings you ideas for summer stress relief, and allows you to share your own insights and tips for summer zen. Here's how to REALLY stay cool this summer!
  • Secret Causes of Summer Stress
    Summer, like the holiday season, is a time of year that most of us look forward to with childlike excitement, only to realize about halfway through that things can be much more stressful at this time than when we were experiencing it as kids. What are the new stressors of summer? Here are a few of the biggies. (Don't worry--you'll find help with them, too!)

  • How To Avoid Summer Stress
    How does one keep summer stress at bay and keep cool, so to speak? Here are several ideas you can use to keep this summer relaxing and fun, and let any additional stressors roll off your back.

  • How Do You Relieve Summer Stress?
    Summer stress can take you by surprise. We expect fun during summer, not stress; but added summer responsibilities--kids underfoot, travel plans gone awry, vacationing co-workers, etc.--can leave us feeling more stressed than blessed. What stresses you during summer, and how do you handle the stress?

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How Healthy Is Your Family?

Monday May 20, 2013
During October, otherwise known as Emotional Intelligence Month, I pledged to bring to your awareness the numerous, more-obscure-but-still-important holidays and observances that relate to stress management. (You can read more about it here.) May is Family Wellness Month.

Because May is Family Wellness Month, and because Summer is coming up, this blog brings you information on staying healthy, staying active and, of course, relieving stress. Here are health and stress management strategies for people of all ages.

  • Strategies for Family Health
    Family health is important--and increasingly hard to obtain these days. With busy schedules and childhood diseases on the rise, it's important to maintain healthy habits to maintain a healthy family. Here are some top strategies for family health.

  • Kids and Stress Management
    We don't always think of kids as being as stressed as we adults, but children do face significant stressors in their lives, and react to that stress. Learn more about kids and stress, and find stress management strategies that can work for them.

  • Readers, Respond! Healthy Family Strategies
    With families finding themselves busier than ever, it's often difficult to maintain a healthy lifestyle. As a result, obesity rates and juvenile diabetes, among many other conditions, is on the rise. That's why it's important to maintain strategies that keep your family healthy. What are some of the habits and strategies that you've adopted to keep your family healthy?

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Less-Stressed Travel Plans For The Summer

Monday May 20, 2013
As summer approaches, many people are stressing over their summer travel plans. In addition to the regular stressors of travel, and especially those of travel with kids, we now have higher gas prices to contend with. If these issues are weighing heavily on your mind, here are some resources to help.
  • How To Reduce the Stress of Travel
    While travel has always been a somewhat stressful experience, increased airport security and other factors have made travel even more stressful in recent years. Here's how to make the experience less stressful.

  • How To Reduce The Stress of Traveling With Kids
    Let's face it: traveling with kids is a lot more complicated, and can be stressful. Here's how to make the experience much less stressful, and perhaps even make getting there part of the fun!

  • How To Save Gas While Traveling
    Driving used to be the frugal way to travel. Now that gas prices are at record highs, here are some tips to save gas on your next vacation and make it as frugal as possible.

  • More Tips for Frugal Traveling
    Because more of your budget may be spent on transportation, here are some useful tips for saving in other areas of your vacation budget.

Because vacations are important for your wellbeing, hopefully these resources can enable you to still take a stress-relieving vacation this summer!

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Are You Having Fun Yet?

Friday May 17, 2013
Are you having enough fun in your life? Chance are, you probably aren't reaching your required fun quota, and may be fun-deficient. And perhaps a fun-infusion is in order.

I say this somewhat tongue-in-cheek, but having fun in your life is actually serious business. Many people are overwhelmed right now with tough economic times, are finding themselves working harder than before to keep their jobs, may be suffering from stress in their relationships as a result, and don't make fun a priority. This is understandable, but it's important to prioritize having fun, too. Here's why:

Eustress: Fun activities provide a source of eustress, the 'good' kind of stress that keeps you feeling vital and alive. It's the sense of excitement you get from completing a project, riding a roller coaster, or meeting an exciting challenge in your life. We need regular eustress in our lives, and fun activities can provide that.
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Positive Attitude: Having regular fun in your life can help you feel less overwhelmed by the stressors you face. This can help you change your attitude toward your lifestyle stressors so that you're less reactive to stress when you experience it.
Read More About Positive Attitude and Stress

The 'Best Medicine': Laughter carries many health benefits with it, so the more laughter you have in your life, the better it is for your health.
Read More About The Benefits of Laughter

User-Friendliness: It might be hard to hit the gym multiple times a week or forgo unhealthy 'comfort foods' when you're stressed, but fitting more fun and laughter into your life is something you can do for yourself that's also easy!
Read More About Healthy Lifestyle Choices

Strong Relationships: Couples who engage in new activities together and have regular fun together may enjoy a closer bond than they otherwise would if they fell into a rut. And a healthy relationship can be a great source of stress relief in your life.
Read More About Healthy Relationship Resources

Social Support: Likewise with friends, sharing fun activities with friends is a great way to maintain a supportive circle of buddies, keeping your bonds strong and helping everyone in the group keep stress levels low. Having strong friendships in your life, and a sense of community, has been linked with longevity, lower stress levels, and more positive states of health.
Read More About Social Support

Burnout Buffering: Having regular fun activities to spice up your life can also help you stave off burnout. Feelings of burnout can result from having a stressful job with unpredictable, hard-to-meet expectations and little recognition. One of the methods I've always endorsed for finding relief from this type of job stress is to give yourself small rewards, or start a group of supportive friends to high-five each other when they accomplish goals that would otherwise go unrecognized. Giving yourself a regular dose of fun is a way to do that, and share it with friends.
Read More About Burnout and Stress

So, after looking at some of the "why"s of having fun, let's look at the "how"s. How can we all get more fun into our lifestyles? It's simpler than you may think, if you make fun a priority. Here are some ideas:

Tips For Having Fun

Take A 'PlayCation' For Stress Relief

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Fun Stress Relievers
How can you relieve stress by having fun? Here are some ideas to try!

Top Hobbies for Stress Relief
Certain activities are worth the time you put into them, just for the fun and stress relief you can get out of them. Here are some of my top picks for stress-relieving hobbies.

How To Maintain a Sense of Humor
Laughing at the stressors you face is one of the best ways to rob them of their difficulty. Here are some strategies for maintaining a sense of humor in life, and having more fun as you go.

Share Your Thoughts:
Do you feel that you have enough fun in your life? What do you do for fun? Share your thoughts in the comments section, and find more About Stress Management on Facebook.

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The Link Between Gratitude and Happiness

Thursday May 16, 2013
There's an old adage that it's more important to want what you have than to have what you want. I love that phrase, and think of it often, as I see people experience stress over not having what they want. I've also sometimes wondered if the truth behind the adage could hold up to scientific scrutiny.

Apparently, psychologist Jeff Larsen from Texas Tech University and Amie McKibban of Wichita State University wondered the same thing, and set out to test the theory! They studied college students and their attitudes toward one major possession: their cars. Students with cars were asked to rate how much they wanted the car they had; students without cars rated how much they wanted the car they didn't have.

The results, published in Psychological Science, prove what we all know: that people can become accustomed to what they have, appreciate their possessions less as the novelty wears off, and therefore derive less happiness from their possessions as time goes by. However, they also found that it's possible to continue to want the things you have, and that doing so can, in fact, bring greater happiness! In short, they proved that happiness is both wanting what you have and having what you want.

"Simply having a bunch of things is not the key to happiness," Larsen said in a prepared statement. "Our data show that you also need to appreciate those things you have. It's also important to keep your desire for things you don't own in check."

So how does one maintain an attitude of gratitude for possessions already owned? In my experience, maintaining a gratitude journal is key. If you write down what you're grateful for at the end of the day, you get into the habit of noticing what you appreciate and why, strengthening your appreciation for what you have in your daily life. It also takes the focus away from things you want but don't yet have. If you don't keep a journal, there are other ways of developing an attitude of gratitude, which is so important for happiness and stress relief.

Also, let's not forget the other finding in this research: while happiness is connected with wanting what you have, having what you want factors in as well, so don't give up on your goal-setting! Going after a goal (with the right attitude) can be exciting, and achieving what you want has its own obvious rewards. Here are some effective goal setting tips to help you find happiness, get what you want, and do so with less stress.

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Post-Mother's Day Stress Management

Monday May 13, 2013
Mother's Day is one of my favorite holidays, as I love celebrating moms and I love being appreciated myself. However, the holiday is not as joyous a day for everyone. Aside from those who have lost mothers and grandmothers, or even those who mourn the relationships they wish they'd been able to have with their moms or children, there are those who experience Mother's Day as a blow to their marriage--and apparently there are more who feel this way than we may realize! One fascinating but sad fact that has stuck in my memory ever since I read it is that the day after Mother's Day is the most popular day for signups from women on a "popular" website for married people looking to cheat. The suspected reason is that many mothers find themselves feeling disappointed and unappreciated on Mother's Day, and want to take action to recapture good feelings for themselves. The reasons people do things are unique and complex, and cannot usually be boiled down to one theory, but the fact that this is a viable theory means that many women out there are feeling unappreciated, unsupported, or both.

While most of these relationships need more help than can be provided in a blog (even this blog!), it is likely that these and virtually all relationships could benefit from a little stress management and communication training. Putting work into one's marriage is important for happiness, just as taking care of one's own needs is vital. Whether your Mother's Day was a great one or a day that left you feeling unhappy, stress management is an important and well-deserved aspect of life, not a luxury. The following resources can help you to make changes in life that can help you to feel happier, healthier, and closer to your mate. Put them into action--you deserve it, and you'll be glad you did!

Have More Fun And Enjoy Life
Life is meant to be enjoyed! Stressed moms may find themselves putting off some fun activities in favor of other responsibilities. This is sometimes necessary, but don't forget to work fun into your daily life--it's important for your resilience and stress levels. Here's how to have more fun and enjoy life.

Self-Care Strategies for Moms
You need to take care of yourself so you can take care of everyone else--and so you can enjoy life and more easily cope with stress! Here are some self-care strategies that can help you to feel less stress and more joy.

Maintaining A Happy Marriage
A stale marriage isn't as toxic as a highly conflict-ridden one, but can be problematic nonetheless. Learn what contributes to a happy marriage, and find tips for incorporating these ingredients into your life.

Fun and The Importance of Play
Do adults need 'play time', too? Quite simply, yes. Here's why, and how to get more fun into your life!

Readers Respond: Share Your Best Happy Marriage Tips!
Having a happy marriage takes work, but brings many benefits, including reduced stress. Good communication is key, as is mutual respect. But what else helps keep a marriage happy? What are your best tips for maintaining a happy marriage? See what other readers have to say, and add your best tips to the list! Share Your Best!

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National Women's Health Week: Take Care Of Yourself!

Monday May 13, 2013
National Women's Health Week began on Mother's Day, as it does every year. This week, you are encouraged to do five things: Part of the mental health aspect of this is to keep an eye on stress management, and have a plan that works for you. Staying active, eating a healthy diet, avoiding unhealthy behaviors, and keeping your body healthy--these other four foci can all support stress management efforts. It's all connected! And now is the time to take care of yourself and be sure that you're doing everything you can to safeguard your health.

I've linked resources in the list above, but I recommend the resources below as well. As women, especially those of us who are mothers, we tend to put others' needs before our own more often. This is kind and benevolent, and sometimes necessary, but we need to be sure that we take care of our own needs with dedication as well. (Not only are we more able to care for others when we are doing well ourselves, we deserve to have our needs met, particularly when these needs have to do with our health!)

I encourage you to subscribe to About.com's Women's Health Newsletter as well as our Healthy Monday Newsletter (which I edit)--they both have wonderful resources from all around About.com Health that can help you to maintain a healthy lifestyle in simple steps.

The following resources can help women take better care of themselves--for their own wellness and so that they can continue to provide excellent care to those that they love. Take them to heart, and send them to the women in your life!

Women's Wellness Resources:

  • Read About The Importance of Self Care

  • Top Strategies for Women's Health

  • Tips For Finding Balance

  • More Tips for Living a Low-Stress Lifestyle

  • Learn Great Home Spa Strategies

  • Go Ahead, Crack Yourself Up

    Saturday May 11, 2013
    They say that laughter is the best medicine, and research is actually backing that up. Well, okay, I'm not saying we should replace pharmacists with stand-up comedians, but there are some real health benefits in a good laugh. Learn more about the many ways that laughter (and even smiling) can be good for you, and make a plan today to get more laughter in your life this week--and from now on. It's one of the most enjoyable things you can do for your health!

    Please feel free to add your own thoughts in the comments section, sign up for the free stress management newsletter for ongoing updates, and have a wonderful week!

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    Celebrate Mental Health Month With Stress Management Resources

    Monday May 6, 2013
    Stress impacts us in may ways, and mental health is no exception. Although stress can foster resilience in some ways, poorly managed stress, chronic stress, and severe stress can contribute to anxiety, depression, and other conditions. Stronger mental health can help to foster better coping and more positive outcomes when we face stress in our lives, so healthy stress management is connected with mental health in several ways. Focusing on effective ways to manage the stress we face in life can help us to stay healthier physically and emotionally, and enjoy life more in the process.

    When people think of controlling stress, often what they envision is making lifestyle changes that eliminate or minimize the stressors in their lives--cutting out those toxic relationships, quitting that stressful job, and somehow avoiding major crises. To be sure, these things can help (especially avoiding major crises, although this is often not as possible as any of us would hope). However, this is just a small part of stress management, and arguably not even the most important part. In fact, we can sometimes even cause ourselves more stress by attempting to control circumstances in our lives that are uncontrollable--the actions of others, for example.

    So how else can we manage stress? Here are some things over which you have quite a bit of control. Place your focus here, and your stress levels can diminish.

    • Your Thoughts
      When cognitive psychologists started realizing that our thoughts played a significant role in our experience of stress, they were really onto something. Because the meaning we attach to an event will alter our perception of how threatening or stressful it is, and our thoughts also affect what resources we mobilize, how (and if) we approach solutions, and even whether our stress response is triggered, changing how we think about things can change our whole experience of stress. Read more about this, and how to manage stress with your thoughts.
    • Your Lifestyle
      Your diet, your sleep patterns, and even how much exercise you get can all impact not only your health, but how you react to stress. A poor diet can lead to greater emotional reactivity, lost sleep can lead to moodiness as well as slower cognitive functioning and memory impairment. Exercise, meanwhile, can lift your mood, energize you, and and help you to be less reactive to stress in the present, as well as in the future. (In fact, even three minutes of exercise can help relieve stress!) How well you take care of your body impacts how well you are able to handle stress--and how hard it hits you! Read more about how to manage stress with self care.
    • Your Focus
      Optimists and pessimists experience the world differently because of what they notice and how they think about it. As a result, optimists tend to be healthier, more successful, happier, and even live longer! They also feel less stressed by what happens in their lives. Optimism is about more than just "looking on the bright side"--it involves noticing positive things more, for sure, but it also incorporates a way of evaluating and explaining situations in a way that gives you an advantage in life and reaffirms your strengths. Read more about how to manage stress by thinking like an optimist.
    • Your Relationships
      Social support can be a big part of stress management--leaning on others for resources and emotional support, and offering the same to them in return, can really lessen the impact of stress, and the level of "threat" we feel when we face life's challenges. That's why our reactions to others can make a difference with our stress levels--if we can work through problems harmoniously, we face a a different picture than if we have constant conflict with others in addition to the other stressors we face in life. Working on inner resilience is key, but being able to foster strong relationships and keep them healthy adds another layer of protection against stress. Read more about how to keep relationships strong and healthy.
    • What You Tolerate
      Sometimes the little stressors in life can really add up. While some of life's major stressors are unpredictable, and others are uncontrollable, we all have daily stressors that are under our control. We all have little things that can drain our energy and make us feel more stressed overall--life coaches call these things "tolerations," and eliminating them can free up your energy and emotional reserves so you can better manage the stressors in life that you can't control. The first step is to learn what your tolerations are, and then start eliminating them from your life. Read more about how to manage overall stress by eliminating everyday stress.
    While we can't always control what happens in life, we can choose our responses. And thankfully, that choice can often make the difference between better mental health outcomes and mental health issues that can be caused or exacerbated by excessive levels of stress.

    What are your best tips for taking care of your mental health and relieving stress in your life? I invite you to share in the comments. Also, I invite you to join more conversations on our Facebook Page About Stress Management, and sign up for our Free Weekly Stress Management Newsletter.

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